Author: Aristogeiton Sotiriou
Hi, I’m Ari. I am a UK-registered therapist with a specialist interest in the psychodynamic nuances of modern relationships. My work focuses on helping individuals and couples bring the unconscious into consciousness, examining how past experiences and attachment histories inform present-day conflicts and desires.
By attending to the transference within the therapeutic space and the subtle echoes of the past, I help my clients achieve a more integrated sense of self and partnership. Beyond my clinical practice, I write and research the intersection of psychoanalytic thought and our increasingly digital lives, seeking to understand how we maintain authentic emotional depth in a changing world.
Co-Parenting Under Pressure: What Yacht Racing Can Teach Us About Family Life
By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip psychodynamic psychotherapist Most couples believe that successful co-parenting depends on communication. Communication certainly matters. Yet many parents discover that they continue having the same arguments despite talking about them repeatedly. The disagreement may begin with breakfast, school bags, bedtime, homework, or whose turn […]
When the Future Suddenly Changes: Living Through a Medical Scare
Why Waiting for Test Results Can Feel So Emotionally Overwhelming By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip | Online Therapy Clinic A routine appointment. A scan. A blood test. Then a sentence that changes everything. “We have found something that needs further investigation.” No diagnosis has been made. No conclusions […]
What Happened to Us When Cancer Entered Our Lives?
Most conversations about cancer focus on diagnosis, treatment, survival, and recovery. These are important conversations. They concern life and death, fear and hope, loss and resilience. Yet in the therapy room, another conversation often emerges months or even years after treatment has ended. It is usually quieter and […]
When Love and Geography Don’t Agree
Your browser does not support the audio element. Listen to: When Love and Geography Don’t Agree 0:00 0:00 A Companion to Living Apart, Staying Together By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip psychodynamic psychotherapist When I first wrote this article and the accompanying worksheet, my aim was to support couples […]
Flashbacks et traumatismes : comment retrouver le présent grâce aux méthodes TCC
By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip psychodynamic psychotherapist Il arrive parfois qu’un souvenir douloureux revienne avec une telle intensité qu’il semble se produire à nouveau. Une odeur, un son, une expression sur le visage de quelqu’un ou une situation particulière peuvent soudainement déclencher une réaction émotionnelle très forte. C’est […]
Working Through Flashbacks: CBT and Grounding Exercises That Can Help
By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip psychodynamic psychotherapist Flashbacks are one of the most disorienting experiences a person can have. One moment you are going about your day. The next, something — a sound, a smell, a tone of voice — pulls you somewhere else entirely. Your body reacts […]
When Defensiveness Takes Over: Why Some Men Struggle to Hear the People They Love
TRACK_TITLE 0:00 0:00 Listening to By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip psychodynamic psychotherapist “Why does every difficult conversation end in an argument?” It is one of the questions we hear most often in both individual psychotherapy and couples therapy. A partner raises a concern. Perhaps she says she feels […]
When Feedback Feels Like an Attack: The Hidden Wounds Behind Defensiveness in Relationships
Why does loving feedback sometimes feel like a personal attack? This article explores how childhood experiences, attachment patterns, and core beliefs can make even requests feel threatening. Drawing on British Psychoanalytic Theory and CBT, it explains defensiveness in relationships and how therapy can help partners move from blame, shame, and conflict towards understanding and connection.
How Do You Know You Have a Relationship Problem? The Signs Most People Miss
Most people who eventually find their way into therapy do not arrive with a clear diagnosis of what is wrong. They arrive with something quieter and harder to name — a vague, persistent unease. A sense that something has shifted, or perhaps that something has been missing for […]
Understanding the Void: A Clinical Reflection on Presence, Absence, and Clarity in Relational Therapy
When relationships become familiar, we can unintentionally stop noticing the person beside us. This article explores how absence, crisis, and emotional distance reveal what we often overlook in everyday life. Through a psychodynamic perspective, it examines how awareness, reflection, and practical exercises can help individuals and couples reconnect before disconnection becomes loss.