A couple’s therapy with only one partner attending still holds the possibility of real change — especially when we move from trying to fix the other to understanding the self.

What can we really change in therapy—our feelings, thoughts, or behaviour? A psychotherapist reflects on individual and couples therapy using insights from British Psychoanalytic Theory and CBT.

Relationships often involve hidden motivations, misinterpretations, and power struggles. Using an experiential role playing exercise the “Hidden Agendas” in couples therapy, it is possible to surface unconscious processes, projections, and power dynamics in the relationship.

Struggling in your relationship? Couples therapy helps both partners grow together, while individual therapy fosters personal insights that can transform your connection. Discover which approach is right for you!

A successful relationship, much like a dance, requires effort, adaptability, and the ability to dream together while remaining grounded in the here and now.

“Flatmate Syndrome” describes the emotional and physical disconnection that can occur in relationships when partners start living more like housemates than lovers. This blog explores the phenomenon through a psychoanalytic lens, using object relations theory and Winnicott’s concept of the “good enough mother” to uncover deeper dynamics. Emotional withdrawal, fading intimacy, and parallel lives often...

Couples therapy is often misunderstood. Many think it’s about fixing one partner, taking sides, or finding a quick solution to complex problems. In reality, it’s a collaborative process that helps partners explore their dynamics, improve communication, and navigate challenges together. Through the story of Emma and Jake, a hypothetical couple with misguided expectations, we uncover...

Mate poaching, the act of pursuing someone already in a relationship, reveals deep-seated emotional patterns and unresolved conflicts. From a psychoanalytic perspective, this phenomenon often reflects our unconscious desires and fears, prompting us to seek validation in ways that can harm our relationships. Understanding these dynamics is crucial for fostering healthier connections and personal growth.

Rekindle intimacy in relationships by exploring shared fantasies and emotional connection.

In his epic work The Aeneid, the Roman poet Virgil wrote the famous line, “I fear the Greeks, even those bearing gifts,” as a cautionary tale about deception and trust. In many ways, this ancient sentiment mirrors the internal struggles clients face when they come to therapy: fear […]