When Defensiveness Takes Over: Why Some Men Struggle to Hear the People They Love

Photo Credit: TMS Sam @Pexels.com “Why does every conversation turn into an argument?” It is one of the most common questions that appears in both individual therapy and couples therapy. A partner raises a concern. Perhaps she says she feels lonely in the relationship. Perhaps he says he […]

When Feedback Feels Like an Attack: The Hidden Wounds Behind Defensiveness in Relationships

By Ari Sotiriou MA PGDip psychodynamic psychotherapist “Why are you always criticising me?” It is a phrase heard in countless relationships. One partner raises a concern. Perhaps they would like more communication, more emotional openness, or simply more presence. Instead of hearing the message, the other partner hears […]