Why do intelligent, successful couples become stuck over where to live, whose career comes first, or what their future should look like? This article explores the unconscious fears beneath practical disagreements, including caretaking, appeasement, achievement and autonomy, while introducing reflective exercises that encourage honest conversations and shared decision-making between partners.

In his epic work The Aeneid, the Roman poet Virgil wrote the famous line, “I fear the Greeks, even those bearing gifts,” as a cautionary tale about deception and trust. In many ways, this ancient sentiment mirrors the internal struggles clients face when they come to therapy: fear […]