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Hi, I'm Ari, the admin and author behind this blog. As a UK-registered therapist, I specialize in online couples therapy, helping individuals and partners work through their challenges and build stronger relationships. With a focus on empathy and practical strategies, I aim to provide readers with valuable insights and resources for personal and relational growth. When I'm not working with clients or writing, I’m continually learning and exploring new ways to support emotional well-being in the digital age.
THE VESSEL AND THE BRIDGE
A marriage is not a single open deck exposed to every weather system. It is a vessel with distinct compartments — and when the seals between them fail, a quarrel about the dishwasher can flood the erotic core of the relationship. The pattern beneath this is rarely about the dishwasher. It is about who is...
The Watertight Marriage: Navigating the Evolution of the Couple’s Vessel.
When a marriage evolves from a "libidinal dinghy" into a complex vessel, the risk of systemic failure increases. This article explores how to use the metaphor of sealed compartments to prevent a Parent-Child dynamic from sinking the entire relationship, offering a psychodynamic framework for maintaining the "Adult" on the bridge during times of crisis.
The BetterHelp Phenomenon: From Digital Gateway to Clinical Depth
Is the platform model a gateway or a destination? While giants like BetterHelp democratise access to support, many professionals are now experiencing 'subscription fatigue.' In this reflection, we examine the transition from transactional digital services to the psychodynamic depth of a private clinical relationship.
The Relational Handshake: A Communication Protocol for Individuals and Couples
In the world of Information Technology, a “protocol” is a set of rules that governs how data is exchanged between systems. One of the most fundamental concepts is the handshake: a process where two points acknowledge each other, verify that they are ready to communicate, and confirm that […]
Why Do Some People Feel Stuck While Others Cruise Through Life?
At different moments in life, we all face crossroads. For some, moving forward feels natural and straightforward—they make decisions, adapt to change, and rarely look back. For others, these same moments can feel paralysing, as if an invisible weight is holding them back. They long to move forward […]
Guillaume’s Dilemma: When Intimacy and Desire Can’t Live Together
A closer look at the inner conflict some men experience when love and sexual desire feel incompatible — and how therapy can help.
When Only One Partner Shows Up: Reflections on a Couple’s Therapy with One Participant
A couple’s therapy with only one partner attending still holds the possibility of real change — especially when we move from trying to fix the other to understanding the self.
“I Just Want to Feel Better”: On Changing Feelings, Thoughts, and Behaviour in Therapy
What can we really change in therapy—our feelings, thoughts, or behaviour? A psychotherapist reflects on individual and couples therapy using insights from British Psychoanalytic Theory and CBT.
When Two Become Three: On Parenting, Partnership, and the Psychoanalytic Divide
A thoughtful and sophisticated framework - very containing for clients, especially those struggling with the disorientation that often follows the transition to parenthood or separation.
Why It Matters How We Begin Couples Therapy
What the first session reveals about the couple’s dynamic—and why seeing both partners together really matters.