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Hi, I'm Ari, the admin and author behind this blog. As a UK-registered therapist, I specialize in online couples therapy, helping individuals and partners work through their challenges and build stronger relationships. With a focus on empathy and practical strategies, I aim to provide readers with valuable insights and resources for personal and relational growth. When I'm not working with clients or writing, I’m continually learning and exploring new ways to support emotional well-being in the digital age.
Why Clients Lie: A Therapist’s Perspective on Trust and Misrepresentation
Why do clients sometimes lie in therapy? In this post, I share an anonymized case that highlights the complexities of trust and honesty at the start of the therapeutic journey, exploring why clients might misrepresent themselves and how therapists can respond with empathy and understanding.
When Partners Become Strangers: Understanding “Flatmate Syndrome” Through a Psychoanalytic Lens
“Flatmate Syndrome” describes the emotional and physical disconnection that can occur in relationships when partners start living more like housemates than lovers. This blog explores the phenomenon through a psychoanalytic lens, using object relations theory and Winnicott’s concept of the “good enough mother” to uncover deeper dynamics. Emotional withdrawal, fading intimacy, and parallel lives often...
What Couples Therapy Is NOT: Misconceptions, Misunderstandings, and the Wrong Reasons for Attending
Couples therapy is often misunderstood. Many think it’s about fixing one partner, taking sides, or finding a quick solution to complex problems. In reality, it’s a collaborative process that helps partners explore their dynamics, improve communication, and navigate challenges together. Through the story of Emma and Jake, a hypothetical couple with misguided expectations, we uncover...
The Weight of Unspoken Grief: A Psychoanalytic Perspective on Obesity and Eating Disorders
Our bodies often carry the weight of what our minds cannot express. In my latest essay, I explore how unresolved grief and early trauma can manifest as disordered eating and obesity, through the story of George, a chef whose relationship with food reflects his inner struggles.
Navigating the Borderline Between Spiritual Experience and Psychosis in Psychodynamic Therapy
In the therapeutic space, we sometimes encounter individuals who describe intense physical or spiritual experiences that can be challenging to interpret. These experiences may reside at the boundary between a meaningful spiritual journey and potential psychosis, presenting complex questions about safeguarding and clinical responsibility. In one recent case, […]
The Metamorphosis: A Psychoanalytical Perspective on Alienation, Identity, and the Self
A psychoanalytical exploration of Kafka’s The Metamorphosis, examining how Gregor Samsa’s transformation into an insect symbolizes the collapse of identity, the struggle with societal expectations, and the deep alienation of the human psyche.
The Toxic Tango: When a Narcissistic Psychopath Meets an Autistic Megalomaniac
Excerpt: When a narcissistic psychopath partners with an autistic megalomaniac, their initial shared ambition quickly gives way to a clash of egos and control. This toxic alliance, driven by grandiosity and manipulation, ultimately unravels, leaving both parties grappling with the fallout.
The Tale of Two Wolves: Understanding Our Inner Conflict Through Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
Explore the tale of two wolves within us all, and discover how psychodynamic therapy helps bring balance and self-acceptance to our inner conflicts.
The Psychology of Mate Poaching: A Psychoanalytic Perspective Why Are We Drawn to the Unavailable?
Mate poaching, the act of pursuing someone already in a relationship, reveals deep-seated emotional patterns and unresolved conflicts. From a psychoanalytic perspective, this phenomenon often reflects our unconscious desires and fears, prompting us to seek validation in ways that can harm our relationships. Understanding these dynamics is crucial for fostering healthier connections and personal growth.
From Myth to Screen: Exploring Desire, Identity, and Connection in the Digital Age
The myth of Helen of Troy highlights the timeless struggles of desire and isolation. As we navigate the digital landscape, reflecting on these ancient themes through a psychoanalytic lens can help us foster genuine connections amidst curated identities and superficial interactions.